Anyone who knows me understands that I hate New Year’s Resolutions. Why
should I allow this ONE DAY to be the time when I MUST make changes in my life,
my beliefs and/or my actions? What an angst-causing, pressure-filled cauldron
that is! Talk about a set up for failure! Maybe on January 1st I’m not ready to
go on a diet. Promising myself that I will quit procrastinating and will work
on my contemporary romance novel for four hours, minimum, every day starting on
January 1st may not be a challenge that I wish to tackle on that
auspicious date.
After all, I have a
book, The House of Comprehension, for ELA middle school teachers coming
out the beginning of March. Although I am done with manuscript revisions, I am
sure that I could be marketing, or doing something for it…anything that will
keep me from dredging my brain for witty repartee for my characters. After six
months of non-stop writing and revising, my creativity, like Elvis, has left
the building, my idea-rich fat lady has sung and Ms. Witty has hitched a ride
on the Brain Train’s last car out of my Imaginarium.
Knowing myself as I do,
the creativity bug probably won’t bite until 2:32AM on March 19th
when, once again, on the morning of the 20th, I will mentally kick
myself for not crawling out of my dream and stumbling to my office to add that
great, but now forgotten, dialogue to Chapter Eight that had awakened me. The
Diet Dictator probably won’t convince me of my eating decadences until 3:16PM
on June 2nd when I really, really want to bake that to die for
Chocolate Peanut Butter cake chock full of sugar, fat and calories (and
incredible yumminess).
My point is, I won’t
make a change that will endure until I am 100% ready to make the commitment.
That might be on New Year’s Day, or, then again, maybe not. It has always
rankled me no end that some ancient Babylonian philosopher/pundit (who some say
is responsible for the resolution tradition) decided that everyone must be
ready to commit to life changes on January 1st each and every year.
Hmmm, no thank you; not for me, Philosopher Baby.
Until June 2011, my new
year always began in September, anyway: First as a student, then as a teacher,
next when my oldest child turned five, and then after my youngest started first
grade, and, finally, as a teacher once again. Each and every one of those
Septembers sang of promises I made to myself as a student, a wife, a mother and
a teacher. My inner clock still seems more inclined to make personal
commitments the beginning of September. This year, for instance, 9/1 was the
day I smoked my last Virginia
Slim, a promise I had made to myself and had been gearing up for since June 27th. Quitting has never been so easy. My guess? I was resolved to make the committment.
Slim, a promise I had made to myself and had been gearing up for since June 27th. Quitting has never been so easy. My guess? I was resolved to make the committment.
For me, January 1st
has been only a part of a much needed winter respite, not a day set for new
beginnings, even now, a year and a half into my retirement. This New Year, I
chose to find some words of wisdom to guide me though the next twelve months.
Maybe a few will become resolutions to last me the rest of my life, not just
for the next 365 days. My plan is to choose whichever one will reignite my
usually positive outlook when I am huddled under my sadness cloak, the one that
fell on my shoulders on September 30, 2012 when my incredible mother passed
away at age 95. Also, I will choose one (or two) as my mantra when I am lost in
a miasma of negativity due to self-inflicted moodiness that is bolstered by the
thoughtless and insensitive actions and words of people I know personally, or
those whom I encounter through daily life, the news and other outlets. This
quote list will energize me on days when my procrastination monster is
threatening to send me into my Scarlett O'Hara, "I'll think about this
tomorrow," mindset.
These quotes aren’t
listed in any order of importance, but are culled from those word gems that
have made an emotional impression on me throughout my years and years of loving
the written word. For me, they are all personal because they speak to the times
that I need to “Screw {my} your courage to the sticking place,” as Lady Macbeth
told her angst-filled husband. Maybe one or two of them will add meaning to
2013 for you, too.
1.
The place where you made
your stand never mattered. Only that you were there... and still on your feet. ~Stephen
King
2.
Anger is an acid that
can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which
it is poured. ~Mark Twain
3.
Never confuse a single
defeat with a final defeat. ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
4.
The most effective way
to do it, is to do it. ~Toni Cade Bambara
5.
We are what we believe
we are. ~C.S. Lewis
6.
Boldness be my friend. ~William
Shakespeare
7.
Everyone ought to bear
patiently the results of his own conduct. ~William Shakespeare
8.
Find ecstasy in life;
the mere sense of living is joy enough. ~Emily Dickenson
9.
Man, when you lose your
laugh you lose your footing. ~Ken Kesey
10.
Remember if people talk
behind your back, it only means you're two steps ahead! ~Fannie Flagg
11.
We have all a better
guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be. ~Jane
Austin
12.
Being the richest man in
the cemetery doesn't matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we've done
something wonderful, that's what matters to me. ~Steve Jobs
So here is my New Year’s
Day advice to my readers: Resolve to commit to changes when you are mentally,
emotionally and physically ready to confront your personal Achilles' heels, not
because of a high school or family reunion, a trip to the Caribbean, advice
from a relative, or a date on a calendar. Let the day of your choice become
your personal Resolution Day.
Whatever you decide, may
2013 bring you good health, joy, love, laughter and satisfaction in all that
you endeavor.
PS. Start the year with an engaging lesson: Dynamite Resolutions for the New Year. Spark your students' analytic thinking skills after the long break with this terrific activity where they create resolutions that characters from their readings would make. After they do that, the students analyze why this is a good pledge for each person.http://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Writing-Dynamite-Resolutions-for-the-New-Year-White-Background
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